Japanese Christmas Culture Shock and the Ideal Holi-Date

Fried chicken and strawberry shortcake after working all day—welcome to a typical Christmas Eve date in Japan!

The actual meaning of Japanese Christmas is rather hard to explain. Being a non-Christian nation, Christmas is not celebrated as a religious or even family-based event here. It’s not even a public holiday! Most companies and some schools will stay open until the last possible moment of the year, an oft-lamented fact that non-Japanese (myself included) find impossible to accept.

But if it’s not a holiday and it’s not a family or child-focused event, then what is it? Well, for many of the younger Japanese, Christmas is seen as more of a romantic holiday. It’s like the precursor to Valentine’s. And being such, you may as well experience (and enjoy) a typical Japanese Christmas date. So, here are a few tips for where to start and what to expect.

Beware of “Quarter Men”

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For those using Tinder or other dating apps, you might find a sudden surge in the number of likes and message requests that you receive in the weeks leading up to Christmas. While this is certainly a boost to the ego, be wary of any guys that send a formulaic message—or you might find yourself chatting and making plans with a “quarter man”.

Quartermen are the guys that want a girlfriend around major holidays but only when it’s convenient for them. Simply, they only date for a fixed period of three months—or one quarter hence the name—then it’s goodbye. Summer flings fall into this category as well—lovely for three months but gone as soon as the weather changes.

The ones that start out in December are looking for someone to keep around from Christmas to Valentine’s Day. Then, come February 15th, you might find yourself single, which is really unfair considering March 14th is White Day, a commercial holiday many guys choose to ignore.

The Ideal Christmas Date

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My ex-fiancé once planned out the ideal Japanese Christmas date in great detail. I’m going to break it down into its respective parts for you here.

Shopping & Sightseeing

Department stores have massive Christmas trees, impressive displays and lots of seasonal activities and music to really get you in the festive mood. Many might have already started their pre-New Year sales too. There are also various European-inspired Christmas markets held around various parts of Tokyo and beyond. You can grab a bite to eat here and buy a trinket or ornament to take home.

A Stop At A Pop-Up Ice Skating Rink

Shopping plazas often have large, winter-only ice skating rinks in their central plazas, with skate rentals and rest areas. Here are some of the places with these temporary rinks:

• Futakotamagawa Rise
• Tokyo Midtown
• Red Brick Warehouse in Yokohama

A Romantic Lunch & Dinner

This step applies more to couples with income to spare. However, many coupon-clippers also like to splash out on a fancy hotel buffet, course dinner or dessert and champagne “snack” in an expensive restaurant this time of year. The only problem, of course, is that many places require reservations far, far in advance—some with two-year-long waiting lists!

A Stroll Through The City’s Illuminations

Shopping plazas, parks and gardens, brand-name shops, stations and shopping streets go all out when it comes to winter illuminations. These brilliant displays of light are like the winter equivalent of fireworks—one of my friends believes that it’s just not Christmas without a trip to see the lights. These lights are often left up from November to February.

Fried Chicken & Strawberry Shortcakes

Fried chicken, particularly the Kentucky Fried Chicken type, is Japan’s version of a Christmas turkey or goose. Most Japanese ovens are just not equipped to cook a turkey, and even if they could, you often can’t fit a whole turkey inside it in the first place.

For Japan, Christmas cake means strawberry shortcake: plain white cake, white whipped cream icing and real strawberries on top. In the early 1900s, strawberry shortcake was introduced to Japan from America by Rinemon Fujii, the baker behind what later became the Fujiya Co. Ltd, and quickly became a fairly high-class dessert (whipped cream and strawberries were very expensive at the time). In 1922, the Fujiya company began producing these cakes in greater numbers, other bakeries took notice and the strawberry shortcake became Japan’s Christmas cake of choice. Read more about Japan’s affectionate Christmas cake history here.

Gift Exchange

So it’s time to exchange Christmas gifts. From my experience, there are standard gifts almost expected: a tie, warm scarf or nice gloves for him and some form of jewelry or beauty products for her—all expertly wrapped, of course. These gifts may have been purchased in advance or while you were out shopping together, although some may like a surprise gift exchange instead.

Off To Bed

You may have noticed that the above date doesn’t necessarily have to take place at home. While many couples do celebrate with their own tree and in the comforts of their own home, some prefer to stay at a hotel of some denomination—ryokan (Japanese inn), luxury hotel or even a nice love hotel—for Christmas. This is the reason why:

Naughty Mrs. Claus, Christmas Maid or Elf Cosplay

If you don’t believe me, just walk into your nearest Don Quixote or lingerie store and look at their seasonal display. Some (not all) Japanese men want to see their lady in red lingerie with a skimpy white fur-trimmed apron or cuffs on—one shop a few years back even sold a set with a jingling collar.

Christmas Culture Shock

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Like many non-Japanese women in Japan, Christmas for me means family, friends, cozy sweaters, Rudolph, presents and spiked eggnog. The Hollywood-infused Japanese Christmas date described above might seem cheesy to even the kindest film critics, not to mention expensive. But it’s part of the culture and something you should experience at least once. If you’re seeing someone special or have a prospective partner, why not plan something like it yourself?

Have a joyous, lovely Japanese Christmas!

This article has been republished for 2024.

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